MODULE 4:

• Have developed an understanding that life’s toughest lessons are diamonds in the dumpster, opportunities to gain wisdom and opportunities to become a more effective human being
• have realised that common unhealthy behavioural responses (eg: the use of drugs/alcohol, self-harm, isolation, addiction) to difficult life challenges are coping mechanisms (habitual, emotional-pain-avoidant/soothing behaviours) and thus can be modified and re-learnt with the benefit of self-awareness, self-discipline, practice and support
• Understand the four choices available to human beings in which to display their hurt and anger. These are: (1) aggression (includes self-destructive behaviour); (2) passive aggression (includes the silent treatment); (3) anger turned inward (known as depression); and (4) being assertive. Understanding that the assertive choice is the only choice that is healthy, productive, kind to self and respectful to others
• Feel empowered to inspire and support others to make courageous life choices
• Understand that facing painful life lessons is the main pathway to developing wisdom
• Understand the concept of boundaries: the lines of demarcation that define the personal territory made up of feelings, thoughts, desires, needs, and rights.
• Consciously protecting yourself from difficult, demanding or toxic people (a key element of self-respect and good mental health)